Less Than Domesticated

So this week marks 7 months of wife-hood for me and, although I think I am a pretty darn good wife all-in-all, where I falter is most definitely on the domestic front.  If I had all the time in the world, I have no doubt that I have (or could at the very least) develop the skills.  For example, I think I did quite a nice job pulling together a lovely spread for a Halloween party we threw last year if I do say so myself:

IMG_2879This is by far the most elaborate function I have pulled together thus far and who know’s when I will be this inspired again.  I think it really all boils down to just one simple thing…time. Or should I say, a lack there of.

The Challenge

Like so many other women, I want to be everything to everyone – oh just all the time.  I know that will only get worse in the future when I have a family and even more very important priorities.  I think I play the balancing act game pretty well but it really gets tough.  I want to be the perfect employee, the perfect wife, the perfect daughter, keep the perfect home, be the best runner I can possibly be, a blogger worth reading, and the list goes on.  I guess part of the challenge is that I truly strive to do everything perfectly.  I know, I know.  Perfection is not realistic but it doesn’t stop me from trying.  So, until we figure out some way to add more hours to the day, we just have to start each day anew and give it our best, right?

A Small Triumph?

So, let me back up.  I don’t show my husband nearly enough appreciation for how hard he works for us.  I really appreciate it but I just forget to tell him.  I guess that’s another unfortunate side effect of trying to do it all.  When we decided to get married and buy a house, he was willing to relocate from Tampa to Celebration, the place I wanted to live more than anywhere in the world.  He, however, loves his job in Tampa and had no intention of leaving it so that meant he was signing on for 2 hours of commuting a day roundtrip.  Fast forward almost a year to today.  Charles actually somewhat enjoys the time to relax, listen to the radio, and gather his thoughts but it’s still tough.  He works so hard and often works late which means he may not roll in till 8 pm or later.  Tack on a workout (which should be getting a bit easier thanks to the arrival of our lovely treadmill) and it’s 9 pm till he gets a chance to eat.  Getting up early to run means early to bed so the day is gone before we even realize it.

So how does this all relate to my lack of domesticity?  I am so bad and too often fail to have food on the table for him when all of this is done.  I hate cooking and I’m pretty busy in my own right so it’s easy to find excuses.  Well, as with all things, I am always working to be better and sneak closer to perfection so I have made a concerted effort to really cook dinner not one – not two- but three whole times in the last 2 weeks.

I would love to share with you just one example of my handiwork.  Now, the other two nights, I made lemon pepper chicken totally from scratch.  On the third night, I took a little shortcut by starting with a frozen base and some very easy ingredients.  However, if it goes on the stove or in the oven, I consider it to be a heck of a lot of effort and make it with love.  So here are the ingredients that went into my yummy asian beef dish:


This was super easy and delicious and got rave reviews from my hardworking hubby!  I started with gardein beefless tips (which I lovingly refer to as “feef” – fake beef).  They were just as easy to cook, if not easier, than real beef, are low in calories, and taste just about as good.  This is the second gardein product we’ve tried and we’re still fans.  I threw the Archer Farms Basmati rice in our rice steamer while I cooked.  (Sidebar – If you’re building a wedding registry, be sure to add a rice steamer.  I use it all the time because it’s fast, easy, and rice is good!).  I added pam to a skillet and poured the beefless tips in.  I pretty quickly added some Hoisin sauce and let it cook with the “feef.”  About 10-15 minutes later, it seemed to be well cooked and ready to go.

We were too famished and my iPhone was full (which is continuously an issue) so I didn’t grab a picture of the final product but I am pretty pleased with myself.  At least I can put a “mission accomplished” check mark in the “good wife” box for this week.

In Other News…

I am just about finished with testing the RooSport and spoiler alert, I really like it!  It should be pretty perfect for my purposes so expect a post soon with a full report.  Now if I could just figure out that time management thing long enough to find time to write the review post that the product deserves.  Stay tuned!

How do you keep balance in your life?


2 thoughts on “Less Than Domesticated

  1. Aunt Kay says:

    I think you are doing a great job and I am sure Charles will agree. I can give you some help with the cooking thing. The Cooking Light web site has great meals that are healthy and only 5 ingredients.

    Most family’s have an average of 10 recipes that they rotate. Once you assemble your 10 recipes you can keep the ingredients on hand, eliminating daily shopping.

    You can also cook more than one serving and freeze the extra for another meal. For example, a pot of soup will usually provide enough for four meals. So just freeze for a later date. Same way with pasta sauce. Make enough for several servings and just freeze the excess. Use weekends when you have a little more time to make the recipes that makes multiple meals.

    Think out of the box. Often times we have breakfast for dinner. This holds true if we have had a big lunch.

    Use your restaurant nights to spice up your variety and only cook outside of your planned recipes if you have a little more time.

    Advanced planning can lead to more time for hubby!

    • whyhellodolly says:

      Thanks Aunt Kay! That’s great advice. I think using our weekends smartly to plan (and shop) for meals for the week will make a big difference. I think the lemon pepper chicken I mentioned will definitely become one of those 10 good, healthy, and easy recipes. I’m sure all of this gets easier with practice and luckily, I have years and years of practice ahead of me to look forward to 🙂

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